When was the last time you said "no" to an opportunity? If it was recently, good for you! If you haven't said no recently, perhaps you might want to reconsider the next time.
It might sound odd to advise someone to decline an opportunity. The truth is, that not all opportunities are meant to be taken. Some "opportunities" are actually detrimental to your goals.
I attended a networking event in Malibu, CA, that was co-hosted by Alex of Empowerista and Sarah of GirlTalk Network back in April. We spent an afternoon on the deck of the Cure Spa, overlooking the PCH and the Pacific Ocean, listening to speakers, exercising, and networking. One of the takeaways from the event was the power of focus.
It is no surprise that this tidbit stuck out for me. As a mental performance coach, I help my clients increase their focus in order to achieve their goals. I naturally tend to selectively remember any topics that are related to what I teach my clients.
Part of being focused on your goals includes turning down opportunities that are not in alignment with your goals. If you are focused on one path, by definition, you are excluding and ignoring others. And that is okay. In fact, it is necessary.
However, it is very difficult to say no, at times. We sometimes feel guilty saying no to family and friends. Other times, we fear that we might miss out if we say no. And then there is the part of us that worries that if we say no, we are going to stop the flow of opportunities coming our way. Whatever the case may be, it is challenging at times to say no.
That is why I dedicated Episode 210 of theSilReview to this topic. You can listen to the broadcast in the video below.
The quick summary is this:
Saying no is important. If you constantly say "yes", you are overburdening yourself. Your quality of effort and progress towards your goals will be hindered. You also run the risk of watering down your brand. In order to avoid these averse effects, be more intentional with your "yeses". Say yes only to opportunities that are within alignment of your goals. Boldly say no to all other "opportunities". They are not truly opportunities. They are roadblocks in disguise.