There is power in compliments. We've seen it. Someone has had a bad day, you give them a compliment, and all of a sudden their entire demeanor changes. Their face brightens up. Their shoulders straighten, as if a weight has been lifted off their shoulders. And then, they sort of clam up a bit, as if they are embarrassed for the compliment.
Let's be honest - how many times has that happened to you? I know it's true for me. When I get a compliment, I instinctively rejoice inside. There is a sense of pride and fulfillment. Someone has seen me - truly seen me - and chosen to verbally appreciate me. And then, the ensuing embarrassment. Why be embarrassed? It could be because we are not trained to receive compliments. We are trained to receive critiques instead.
If you want to radically change your relationship with your network - your employees, your clients, etc... - change the way you give and receive compliments. Give and receive them freely.
Here are 5 reasons why you should give and receive compliments:
1. Build rapport with your contacts.
When you GIVE a sincere compliment, the person who receives it will know that you care for them as a person, not just an asset. When you RECEIVE a sincere compliment, you are telling the person who is giving you the compliment that you value their input.
2. You will gain the respect of those around you.
Those who witness you giving a compliment will see you as a caring person. Those who see you receive it will see that you respect others and that you respect yourself.
3. You will feel better about yourself.
It's a well known fact that when you do an act of kindness, it makes you feel better. Giving a compliment works the same way. Seeing the other person positively react to your compliment will make you feel better. Receiving the compliment will make YOU feel better and appreciated
4. You will have GOOD ammunition saved up for hard times.
As with every relationship, even business has its ups and downs. When the going gets tough, you can remind yourself of the compliments you gave to your employee in the past and temper your reaction accordingly. When you feel down about yourself, you can remind yourself of the compliments you received from your clients and use that as ammunition to strengthen yourself.
5. You will train yourself to look at the good and best in others.
What you focus on expands. If you get into the habit of sincerely complimenting people, you will focus on the good in people. Funny thing, you'll start noticing the good before the bad. You'll start to find reasons to be grateful for your network, rather than complain. And you'll influence those in your network to do the same.
With that said, I'd like to compliment YOU. The fact that you are reading this shows that you are a caring person and you want to positively impact those around you. Bravo you! Thank you for being you!
Now, practice giving sincere compliments to others, and then let me know how it went.